scrub?
okay, so i was reading my kuya's blog... he asked what girls think about guys who live with their parents. the situation that kuya was saying included the guy being in his mid-20s, and him making payments for the house he helped them buy. i don't see how that could be such a bad thing, unless his parents are treating him like a teenager or something. but i personally don't know anyone (right off the top of my head) that is in this situation.

in the group i've got, i don't know any girl who's got her own place (apartment or house). we're all over 20. but i think it's just a typical girl thing that their parents let them stay as long as they want. it's not that our parents don't want us to move out, or that they won't encourage it. it's just that they won't boot us out of the house. besides, it's not that bad. some of us are spoiled and we don't have to pay rent or do anything for our parents to help support the family. the rest of us support our family in different ways, from just paying to keep gas in the car, to contributing a bit to the bills, to helping out our siblings so our parents won't have to worry about them so much. yeah, that's pretty much how it works in my neck of the woods. i know of a few people that strongly believe that after 19 (that's when you're considered an adult in canada), they will kick their kids out of the house to fend for themselves. unless i know that my kids are going to be able to do what they want to do (ex. school, travel, or work) AND support themselves financially, i won't even hear of that. the last thing i'd want is to kick my kid out of the house before they felt they were ready... imagine having to pay off student loans or credit card bills or having no real work experience so you'd be on welfare before the age of 20. and on top of that, they'd have to pay rent, electricity and grocery bills every month... maybe it's just a maternal thing, and i know this is a worst-case scenario, but i'd hate to think that my kid could have a really rough start on his or her adult life.

of course, if i think back to how i was when i was 19, well, i guess i was mentally ready. but i was still in school... definitely NOT financially ready. it's sad that money has to play such a big part, but it does.

but as far as if a guy was in this situation, i dunno. i think most guys make a point to be independant of their parents as soon as they can, regardless of if they still live with them or not. i know of some that live on their own, and those are the ones i hardly see cuz they're always working. of course, it would be a bit of a drag if you wanted to have a romantic evening with a guy and you couldn't cuz his mom and dad were upstairs watching television or something... privacy and independance are the main advantages to having your own place. but really, a guy (in his early to mid 20s) living with his family doesn't bother me so much. it's not like he'd be living in his parent's house forever. besides, it's different if a guy owns his house and has his parents staying with him rather than him living with his parents. now, if he complains about his living situation and is doing nothing about it, then i would consider him a scrub.